The Dating Game

(Found this in the papers today... some excerpts from the full article titled "Getting to the of the dating game")

But, she says, it all boils down to her deep personal belief that everybody wants to find that special someone.

'Is that a lot to demand? No and yes. We have so many problems, it is mind-boggling. We live in such a densely populated space and yet we find it so difficult to find the right person. Sociologically, I find that question so challenging,'' she says.

Dr Straughan heads the Social Development Unit's (SDU) regulatory arm which will look into the accreditation of dating agencies now that the Government's matchmaking arm for graduates has decided to take a back-seat role.

(funny isn't it? there used to be a specialised service for graduates.. just goes to show how much they need it.. hahaha)

Research figures support Dr Straughan's belief that everybody wants to settle down.

According to an SDU/Social Development Service Perception Survey in 2005, more than 90 per cent of the 1,500 single respondents said they would certainly or most probably get married one day.

This bears out the findings of the Survey of Social Attitudes of Singaporeans commissioned in 2001 by the then-Ministry of Community Development and Sports which showed that eight in 10 out of the 1,481 Singaporeans polled felt it is better to get married than to stay single.

(didn't realise that many Singaporeans want to get married...)

Between 2000 and 2005, the number of marriages here remained fairly constant - from 22,561 in 2000 to 22,992 in 2005 - while a relatively high proportion of men and women in their 30s were single in 2005.

Among those aged 30-34 years, 34 per cent of men and 22 per cent of women were not married.

Also, the proportion of older singles in the population increased between 1995 and 2005. Among those aged 40-44 years, some 14-15 per cent of men and women were single in 2005. This is higher than the 12-13 per cent in 1995.

There are currently 600,000 singles over the age of 20 in Singapore.

(now that's a big difference between the ideal and the actual reality)

'Before people can start a family, they must first have the freedom and time to enter into a courtship,' says Dr Straughan.

'And it's not just going out for a movie when you are free. It's a sustained commitment.

'If you go out with a guy to whom you are clearly second fiddle to his work and other commitments, you are not going to think seriously about him.'

Ms Chiang agrees.

'There needs to be a balance. So when you cannot switch on that emotional time, to be emotionally prepared to connect, to savour that two hours after work, then all is lost.'

(hear hear... some of the other parts of the article are quite funny... especially about some disasters at matchmaking sessions.. haha)